Comments on: The imperious self http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/the-imperious-self/ Ethics and the process of perfection Thu, 02 Feb 2012 13:23:56 +0100 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Roxanne http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/the-imperious-self/comment-page-1/#comment-298 Roxanne Thu, 31 Dec 2009 22:59:26 +0000 http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/?p=760#comment-298 Recently I had an encounter with a friend who benevolently criticized me about how my pride and the feeling of superiority I have towards others, is evident in my behaviors, even though I may think others may not notice it. At first even though I thanked her for her honest comment, deep down inside, I was hurt and in denial. It took me a few days to realize that she is right. Then my imperious self approached me, making me feel depressed and ashamed of my worst flaw, that is, pride. But very soon, I realized after a discussion with another friend that this pessimism and feeling of hopelessness is not the voice of my soul, it's the imperious self that is affecting my line of reasoning as if I had supposed to be flawless and now that I have found out about my flaws, I have to become depressed and sad. Whereas my soul voices the truth, the truth that we are all full of flaws and only God is flawless and as long as we are aware of our imperfections and ask God for help to do our utmost efforts to improve them, we are aligned with our soul's voice not our imperious self's voice. Recently I had an encounter with a friend who benevolently criticized me about how my pride and the feeling of superiority I have towards others, is evident in my behaviors, even though I may think others may not notice it. At first even though I thanked her for her honest comment, deep down inside, I was hurt and in denial. It took me a few days to realize that she is right. Then my imperious self approached me, making me feel depressed and ashamed of my worst flaw, that is, pride. But very soon, I realized after a discussion with another friend that this pessimism and feeling of hopelessness is not the voice of my soul, it’s the imperious self that is affecting my line of reasoning as if I had supposed to be flawless and now that I have found out about my flaws, I have to become depressed and sad. Whereas my soul voices the truth, the truth that we are all full of flaws and only God is flawless and as long as we are aware of our imperfections and ask God for help to do our utmost efforts to improve them, we are aligned with our soul’s voice not our imperious self’s voice.

]]> By: Emily http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/the-imperious-self/comment-page-1/#comment-295 Emily Mon, 28 Dec 2009 15:09:42 +0000 http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/?p=760#comment-295 I struggle with the internal tug of war between the two inner “voices” on a daily basis, and especially experience it in my relationships with certain co-workers and members of my family. Although, I know what the correct moral and ethical behavior is, I find it difficult to implement it in my relationships with them. It was instructive to learn that not every impulse is necessarily unjustified (e.g., irritation and annoyance created by people around us). Rather, how we confront these impulses is what matters. I struggle with the internal tug of war between the two inner “voices” on a daily basis, and especially experience it in my relationships with certain co-workers and members of my family. Although, I know what the correct moral and ethical behavior is, I find it difficult to implement it in my relationships with them. It was instructive to learn that not every impulse is necessarily unjustified (e.g., irritation and annoyance created by people around us). Rather, how we confront these impulses is what matters.

]]> By: Calvin http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/the-imperious-self/comment-page-1/#comment-292 Calvin Sun, 27 Dec 2009 19:46:48 +0000 http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/?p=760#comment-292 The article seems to infer a number of buried challenges. The trials and tribulations of everyday life appear to act as a catalyst for the imperious self to act. Not to mention, the imperious self can use its innate ability to trick us via reasoning that appears justifiable. How does one find motivation to undertake such a tireless process on a daily basis? The article seems to infer a number of buried challenges. The trials and tribulations of everyday life appear to act as a catalyst for the imperious self to act. Not to mention, the imperious self can use its innate ability to trick us via reasoning that appears justifiable. How does one find motivation to undertake such a tireless process on a daily basis?

]]> By: Liliane http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/the-imperious-self/comment-page-1/#comment-291 Liliane Sun, 27 Dec 2009 16:34:20 +0000 http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/?p=760#comment-291 The subtlety and depth which the author of this article analyzed the manifestations of imperious self in the example of Romain's hard work condition (paragraph 8) was very interesting for me because I usually find myself working in difficult work environments and could never undersand why I am in this situation. In my current work, I have to do two to three times more than what I was hired for. In this past year I worked very long hours and most weekends. The accumulated fatigue makes me more and more irritable. Like Romain I was aware of my negative attitude with people and tried to refrain from being unpleasant with others. Needless to say that it is very hard, almost impossible to control the instinct of aggresivity, even though I don't deal with customers and my interactions at work are limited to occasional discussions with colleagues. I realized after reading paragraph 8 that I completely missed another manifestation of negative impulses, which is more important for me than the consequence of a kind of negative attitude that everyone at work seems to share - that is an attitude of ingratitude and pessimism toward life. I had begun to think that it is normal to complain, considering my difficult work environment. Now I realize that even if I change my work (which is very difficult in this economic environment) I may still have this attitude of pessimism as I had it in most of my career. Therefore, regardless of my work environment I need to work on my attitude of ingratitude and pessimism toward life. Any suggestion on how to do that is welcome. What motivates me is to realize that I had better change for I suspect that I will continue to find myself in difficult situations until I learn how to deal my ingratitude and my pessimism. The subtlety and depth which the author of this article analyzed the manifestations of imperious self in the example of Romain’s hard work condition (paragraph 8) was very interesting for me because I usually find myself working in difficult work environments and could never undersand why I am in this situation. In my current work, I have to do two to three times more than what I was hired for. In this past year I worked very long hours and most weekends. The accumulated fatigue makes me more and more irritable. Like Romain I was aware of my negative attitude with people and tried to refrain from being unpleasant with others. Needless to say that it is very hard, almost impossible to control the instinct of aggresivity, even though I don’t deal with customers and my interactions at work are limited to occasional discussions with colleagues.

I realized after reading paragraph 8 that I completely missed another manifestation of negative impulses, which is more important for me than the consequence of a kind of negative attitude that everyone at work seems to share – that is an attitude of ingratitude and pessimism toward life. I had begun to think that it is normal to complain, considering my difficult work environment. Now I realize that even if I change my work (which is very difficult in this economic environment) I may still have this attitude of pessimism as I had it in most of my career. Therefore, regardless of my work environment I need to work on my attitude of ingratitude and pessimism toward life. Any suggestion on how to do that is welcome.

What motivates me is to realize that I had better change for I suspect that I will continue to find myself in difficult situations until I learn how to deal my ingratitude and my pessimism.

]]> By: Ali Tinat(Zoghi). http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/the-imperious-self/comment-page-1/#comment-220 Ali Tinat(Zoghi). Thu, 10 Dec 2009 13:16:10 +0000 http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/?p=760#comment-220 Once more Ostad Eahi's model of the self and its various modes and modalities, in this instance the wild and untrained "Imperious Self" or the animal instincts within us all, is being focused upon and analyzed with absolute clarity. This is achieved by providing the actual everyday life experiences, followed by a detailed mapping of the duality within us—Imperious self vs. Angelic soul—plus Characteristics of The Imperious self, and finally what the Imperious self is not. I find articles such as this a great source of hope, help, and support due to the fact that it provides one with a criteria upon which one can with absolute ease diagnose and measure one's own place in regard to one's own daily acts and ethical values. I therefore am thankful to all of you good people who put so much time, energy, plus love in order to make our world a better place to live. To me, this is the ultimate act of altruism for only by changing oneself into a better person, one can change the world. Once more Ostad Eahi’s model of the self and its various modes and modalities, in this instance the wild and untrained “Imperious Self” or the animal instincts within us all, is being focused upon and analyzed with absolute clarity. This is achieved by providing the actual everyday life experiences, followed by a detailed mapping of the duality within us—Imperious self vs. Angelic soul—plus Characteristics of The Imperious self, and finally what the Imperious self is not.
I find articles such as this a great source of hope, help, and support due to the fact that it provides one with a criteria upon which one can with absolute ease diagnose and measure one’s own place in regard to one’s own daily acts and ethical values. I therefore am thankful to all of you good people who put so much time, energy, plus love in order to make our world a better place to live. To me, this is the ultimate act of altruism for only by changing oneself into a better person, one can change the world.

]]> By: Matttt http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/the-imperious-self/comment-page-1/#comment-142 Matttt Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:34:46 +0000 http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/?p=760#comment-142 Thanks for this great article! It was very clear. When one tries to explain and point out the characteristics of the "enemy", then can be more conscious on the battle field. It is fascinating how much information one can acquire by ignoring what is against his ethical values, but ignoring or denying is the most challenging thing to do. I have to dig inside to find out the "whys" and "hows" of my system and block whatever it is on the rout of my understanding of truth. again, marvelous article! Thanks for this great article! It was very clear. When one tries to explain and point out the characteristics of the “enemy”, then can be more conscious on the battle field. It is fascinating how much information one can acquire by ignoring what is against his ethical values, but ignoring or denying is the most challenging thing to do. I have to dig inside to find out the “whys” and “hows” of my system and block whatever it is on the rout of my understanding of truth. again, marvelous article!

]]> By: Mat http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/the-imperious-self/comment-page-1/#comment-129 Mat Fri, 13 Nov 2009 13:45:28 +0000 http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/?p=760#comment-129 This is a great article, specially where the characteristics is defined and explained. Lately, I've had struggles within myself. Reading this article helped me to find three faces of the imperious self in me which were hyperactive, rebellious, sly. Now, I will try to be more careful and hopefully by paying attention to the Source will get through. Thanks again. This is a great article, specially where the characteristics is defined and explained. Lately, I’ve had struggles within myself. Reading this article helped me to find three faces of the imperious self in me which were hyperactive, rebellious, sly. Now, I will try to be more careful and hopefully by paying attention to the Source will get through. Thanks again.

]]> By: Desmond http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/the-imperious-self/comment-page-1/#comment-114 Desmond Sun, 08 Nov 2009 07:22:38 +0000 http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/?p=760#comment-114 Thank you for sharing this highly educational article. The example you provided struck a cord with me. Though I do not see all to many clients as the person in the example, my work is at times stressful. Now, I'd like to be a source of 'positive impact' in my work environment, however, with deadlines and such I am sometimes not as patient as I would like to be. I will definitely try to do better from now on. Thank you for sharing this highly educational article. The example you provided struck a cord with me. Though I do not see all to many clients as the person in the example, my work is at times stressful. Now, I’d like to be a source of ‘positive impact’ in my work environment, however, with deadlines and such I am sometimes not as patient as I would like to be. I will definitely try to do better from now on.

]]> By: Montrose http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/the-imperious-self/comment-page-1/#comment-110 Montrose Tue, 03 Nov 2009 20:44:14 +0000 http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/?p=760#comment-110 This as a wonderful website with invaluable information that can help me focus on my psyche vs. the unimportant aspects of myself. The mind and thoughts are truly what make us human or not, depending on our choices and behavior, and this excerpt of the imperious self is a testament to that. Thank you for sharing and providing. This as a wonderful website with invaluable information that can help me focus on my psyche vs. the unimportant aspects of myself. The mind and thoughts are truly what make us human or not, depending on our choices and behavior, and this excerpt of the imperious self is a testament to that. Thank you for sharing and providing.

]]> By: Erin http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/the-imperious-self/comment-page-1/#comment-107 Erin Mon, 02 Nov 2009 17:54:05 +0000 http://www.e-ostadelahi.com/eoe-en/?p=760#comment-107 I find this picture of the 2 components of the self very clear. I found it very helpful in trying to identify the different faces of the imperious self in myself which is no easy task. I find this picture of the 2 components of the self very clear. I found it very helpful in trying to identify the different faces of the imperious self in myself which is no easy task.

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